Valentine's Day!

I am a single female whose age 30 and I really didn't have a problem with being single until I was about 28. Then I started becoming concerned when all my siblings were disappearing to marriage and I never could even get a decent date. So I was really happy when I met a guy at Institute who was really nice and we hit it off really well. We had similar majors and liked singing, so we were in choir together. Well I ended up in the same lds ward with this guy and found out that he only hangs out. So really I was just someone for him to hangout/talk to, but it was nothing more then that. Honestly that's when I started really hating the whole dating game. Somehow it works for most people but it never has worked for me. So I decided to start this blog, because I think that there are a lot of other people out there who are over 25 as well who have problems with dating. I thought that I could share experiences and all of you who would like can join in. So maybe we can help each other out from being to upset about our terrible dates or lack of dates. Note: Just so everyone is aware I'm not an extremely good writer, so don't be surprised if this isn't perfect writing.




My first post is about Valentines Day as you will see when you continue reading:




As you all know it was Valentine's Day recently and actually it turned out to be a pretty decent one. There was a semi LDS stake dance going on that night, but I totally wasn't about to attend that. Since you know how dances can be? Either you stand around bored while everyone else dances and if lucky get asked to dance on a slow dance. Or you join the dancing but you have to make up your own moves just because the music at dances these days are crazy. Well I decided not to go to avoid all of that and went to a movie party at a friends apartment. The party turned out to be really fun and it was really just a chick flick/eat valentine candy night. Then I joined some roommates and we did a little service in the neighborhood.


Overall it was a great Valentine's Day, but it was the post Valentine's Day that was crappy. The Stake decided to have a Valentine dance in place of FHE and I totally 100% was not going to attend. Well roommates were going and at the last second I remembered that I'd told my friend who was on the Stake activities committee that I'd attend. So I decided to go long enough to get free food and to say 'Hi'!. Well I got there and one of the girls in my ward was there just to hang out with some friends, but not enjoying the dance. So I ended up talking to her and the dance that I was planning to leave quickly from turned into a dance that I stayed at. Worst mistake of my life, because this guy that I was really into last year (and kind of still like) showed up. Well we're totally friends and so it should have been fine, but he started flirting with my friends that I was hanging out with. Totally ignored me and got one of the girls to dance with him. The other girl walked out for some reason or another as well and I wasn't planning to stick around for this. So I left as quickly as I could, but the damage was done and I was depressed the rest of the night at my apartment. (and usually I don't get depressed very easily)


This is why I hate dating, because when you get past 25 you run into guys who either 1. just want to hangout and flirt 2. or they want to date but go about it awkwardly. So you would think the week would have gotten better but first off I found out that our relief society 2nd counselor got engaged. (I'm the 1st counselor so I know her pretty good) Then just tonight I found out that my 19 year old brother is engaged, so I can't help but think 'how do all these people date and have it work out so well?' I don't understand why I can't ever get past the 1st or 2nd date. It's really frustrating I think because of being in Utah and everyone is married before 25. So once your over 25 you think you've got to get married, which leads to dating anyone who'll ask. But usually the guys who are the ideal ones to date are gone and married, so your left with either 1. the young ones 2. the awkward ones. I also have a hard time with being single over 25 in Utah because when I heard my brother was engaged I instantly thought 'I've got to get a boy friend soon.' Because the truth is that this brother who is engaged is my youngest brother and I'm officially the last one in the family to be single. So if I'm not careful the whole family will be trying to line me up on blind dates all the time. And the absolute worst dates are the blind dates, yeah in fact I have to do one of those next week. :)




Well my point is that dating sucks and gets worse the older you get. So good job to those who have it work for them, but it sure stinks for the rest of us.




I hate to end on a bad note, so every post that I make will have something good at the end.


So the good thing about being single is that you can do whatever you want all the time! My favorite is staying up late and sleeping in on the weekends. :) What's your favorite thing about being single?