I'm pretty sure that I'm going to be a Charlotte Lucus!

I had someone mention to me a few months ago that they thought that they'd end up like Charlotte Lucus from Pride and Prejudice. She's the friend of Elizabeth who married Mr. Collins, who was the cousin of Elizabeth. He had a lot of money and was really just out to get married, so when Elizabeth said no at his proposal he went and found Charlotte. Well sadly Charlotte said 'yes' to his proposal, but it seemed like it was just because she thought that she'd never get another chance. So she married Mr. Collins and later when Elizabeth was visiting her it became very obvious that she only married to be with someone who was well off. (and she didn't want to remain single forever)






Well when I first had this friend mention this I totally disagreed with her and told her that we'd both end up married in the near future. As of this week when I found out my brother was engaged and I realized that my former crush isn't about to do anything but hangout/flirt I really started thinking. And my overall thought was: 'I'm going to be like Charlotte Lucus or remain single forever.' Neither one is a pleasant thought, since who really wants to marry someone you can't be happy with or remain single forever? So it's pretty rough and hopefully it's not true but it's not very hopeful on those terrible awkward dates.






Recently I've been watching the 1995 Pride and Prejudice and Mr. Collins totally reminds me of a date from last summer. I am living in a college town, so during the summer we combine wards in the stake. Well this guy ended up in the ward that was combining with us and I just happened to say 'hi' to him at fhe. Suddenly whenever I saw him at church he wanted to talk and shortly thereafter he asked me on a date. Well I could see from past conversations that he wasn't my type, so I didn't really want to go. But of course went just to be nice, well we were on this date and the guy started telling me about his former girl friend. (it was obvious he still liked the girl) Well later he wanted to do a 2nd date, but he wanted me to meet part of his family. So that is when I finally just told him it was over and I wasn't dating him. But I think every once in awhile how maybe I should have kept dating him, although I usually conclude that it couldn't have ended good. So it's okay that I didn't keep dating him, but it's hard when those are the only guys who will ask you on dates.






This is another reason why I hate dating, just the fact that the guys you'd like to date won't date. And so you are either stuck with the Mr. Collin type or you are forced to ask the other guys on dates. So to all of you who are in a similar situation to me: what is your take on asking guys on dates? I really hate doing it, but do you all think it's ideal or doesn't work because the guys don't take it seriously when they're not the ones asking?






Anyways the good thought I'm ending with is that at least we have Pride and Prejudice to relate to during this icky time of dating. Because we all know that we could be like Charlotte, but did it really end good for her? Since I would say the answer is no then at least we can all think about it and figure out who we really hate in the guy world. And might possibly realize that is the Mr. Darcy in life. So the real trick is to figuring out how to find and connect with our Mr. Darcy. Thanks Jane Austen for a great book/movie! (of course I watch the movies vs reading the books)